“According to noted psychiatrist, researcher, and child advocate Richard Gardner, PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome) occurs when one parent in a post-divorce custody arrangement successfully manipulates the children to turn against the other parent.” Amy J. L. Baker, “Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Breaking the ties that bind”
Today I acknowledged that I need a way to communicate the depth of my grief as I experience each day without my children. I am the alienated parent. The greatest question that lingers in my heart and my mind is “How in the world did I get here?” I am educated. I gave birth to all four of my children at home. I believed wholeheartedly in attachment parenting. I home schooled all four of them. I was a stay-at-home Mom for fourteen years. I taught them to read. I taught them to love life and love learning. How? How is it possible that I am now divorced and separated from my children? A Father who has, over many years, slowly eroded my children’s trust in their Mother. Today, I begin this blog as a method of expression of the deepest grief possible: that of a parent losing a child – a living child.
One day I hope the record of my journey will serve as a testimony to God’s faithfulness in my life for my children and others who are currently experiencing this tragedy. It is incredible and incomprehensible that even in the midst of such grief, I have been blessed beyond measure.
Join me for the journey…you will always be welcome!